Sorry, guys! During system maintenance, some functions like comment are unavailable.
Is it SA?
Currently having a bit of a mental breakdown/argument because I'm 100% sure this doesn't count as sa but my friends are telling it it totally is. Anyways to sun it up used to play what my caretakers son(22 at the time) would call truth or dare dirty edition (if it matters I was like 5-8 he moved when I was 8 so it stopped around then) essentially we each give truth or dare questions most of the time it he asked like have you kissed a boy do you like anyone shit like that so like innocent questions but the problem my friends seem to find is that when I chose dare he would have me so handstands( I usually wore dresses cuz my parents wanted me to be feminine or wtv) and he would ask to see my thighs or touch them a bit (never tooky clothes off) now I think it wasn't anything serious but I'm being told it was grooming n SA since I couldn't consent or wtv but like what is there to consent to? Its not like he put it in yk? That's not sexual assault it was a game n sometimes he got a lil touchy that's all. We were all talking abt childhood games n now I kinda feel like I ruined the atmosphere by bringing it up too so I'm just wondering what others thoughts are.
Yes, it is. You said he was 22 and you were 8 at that time, right? Why would someone even want to see your thighs if that person doesn't have weird thoughts?
I too had a similar incident. Back then I was too young to understand that it was a case of SA. He touched on my private parts, grabbed my ti*s, I couldn't even remember most of the thing, a...... 2 reply
um honey...SA doesnt mean just penetration. Okay let's just avoid the term altogether if that makes you uncomfortable. First of all no sane 22 year old would play such a game with an 8 year old child. And even if i was playing a game with a person the same age as me i would never pick the dare as touching the other person on their thighs. that's to...... reply
If he was 22 and u were 8, that was 100% wrong on his part. As an adult he crossed boundaries that he shouldn’t have and behaved extremely inappropriately. Children don’t always understand/grasp what is happening in situations where there is assault until they are much older. Whatever happened was not your fault as it was the responsibility of ...... reply
Think of it this way. At your age rn, would you play the 'truth or dare dirty' with a 8 year old? Would you ask a child to do handstands, knowing theyre in a skirt/dress, and touch their leg or thigh? Would you play a game with a toddler that involves that amount of skinship as a grown adult?
Another scenario is: Say that you asked for their perm...... 1 reply
I will put it short for you, this was grooming and child sexual abuse. Child sexual abuse doesn't reduce to just sex acts it can mean many things as well that includes what he did to you. He was a 22 year old man and you were an 8 year old you may have not known that this was wrong and as well not know what consent meant but, he knew what he was do...... reply
Just google what's SA means. Sexual doesn't means it's need to be penetration. What kind of man that wanting to touch kid's thigh?? Especially during truth or dare game?? reply
imma hold your hand when i say this …. but seriously yea girl definitely sounds like there was some other motive n not just a game like you thought . sorry your going through all this turmoil so many years later 1 reply
I'll be controversial here. Not from reasons to defend him or any assaulter.
I think it does not matter what it was.
You were a child, for you it was "a game", you weren't hurt and you grew up normally without traumas.
What are you getting now asking yourself all those questions?
Yk, most children react badly if someone older is touching them impr...... 4 reply
He is very much a weirdo and that’s absolutely disgusting and I’m sorry that happened to you. You thinking that it wasnt sexual assualt or not viewing it as that, doesn’t make it not sexual assault. The bottom line is that it was and is sexual assault, but if you don’t care about it, I won’t either. Just don’t really tell people that wi...... 2 reply
