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Do I need a reality check?
I find myself questioning if I'm being hypocritical. I find alot of people that call themselves fujoshis gross. While I don't have an issue with reading BL or Yaoi and have enjoyed quite a few, truthfully even masturbated to some, I can't help but feel a sense of disgust when I hear some fujoshis categorize reallife men into either bottoms or tops. Moreover, I'm bothered by certain comments on this site, that seem to fetishize gay men in general and oversimplify real life struggles/ Issues. However, I wonder if I have the right to hold these opinions, considering that my list of read Yaois is four times longer than the one for GL. Being a queer woman, does that change anything or am I just a hypocrite?
Okay, listen.
There is a difference between enjoying BL and gay media and fetishizing it. You understand the struggles of gay men, probably due to the fact you're a queer woman. That is a huge thing to know.
What did you masturbate to? Was it the sex, a kink they were doing? A fetish? The reason for these questions, as it will help me at least ...... 1 reply
Theres truly a lot to think about here, being a queer woman doesnt make you any different than if a straight woman was concerned about this, its valid to feel conflicted when it comes to this. We have to find the root of why you find this sort of content enjoyable, are you fetishizing it or are you just normally consuming BL? Theres a huge differen...... 3 reply
you aren’t a hypocrite lol. people have twisted the term “fujoshi” sm. being a fujoshi means that you like BL/yaoi, nothing more. the people who dehumanize gay men irl are just fetishizers hiding behind the term “fujoshi”. You are perfectly fine man, keep reading whatever you like. reply
People are so comfortable online, in any case... im aroace
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I dont see myself in any romantic/sexual content
But obviously we can also masturbate
Not so much as imagining being that person but getting stimulated by imagery
Its like being hypnotized
Uh just letting yall know too, I read yaoi, yuri, and hentai
Its all the same really
Not ...... 1 reply
There’s a huge difference between reading BL and enjoying it, and talking in a fetishising way. I don’t believe simply reading BL is fetishising gay men, even though some manga is very fetishising, not all of it is, and the way you choose to discuss it shows whether you’re reading it to fetishise or not, at least it does in my opinion.
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fujoshis are weird and the term will always be weird, your reading porn so its expected obviously most people jerk off to it I dont think its hypocritical but it depends if you believe your fully immersed by the fetishization of it so its really your call at the end of the day that makes you the hypocrite 3 reply