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So I've been wondering is calling someone (irl) an uke or a seme that bad? I know a lot of people are against labeling (role?) as everyone can do whatever they want but IS IT THAT BAD?
I'm not particular against it but I wouldn't ask about it either...just a very weird question to ask (for me)
YES it is that bad, u are fetishizing people quite blatantly at that point, it’d be creepy to anyone if they were labeled that way in real life, keep ur fiction to fiction and reality to reality reply
I mean it's already weird calling other people top/bottom, what more if you call them uke/seme, /mostly/ a s3x label that is used for fictional characters.
It's like your treating them like a mere Character for your little story, all in all it's weird and disrespectful
But that's just my insight, it's probs better to listen to actual mlm people reply
Yes it is, how would you feel if someone asked your position during sex? Plus "uke/seme" specifically, is used for fictional characters only so it's dehumanising as well. (Specially since LGBTQ+ are a minority and have been discriminated against cause of their sexuality) It's REALLY BAD and please don't. reply
As a gay guy I don't really mind as long as I'm close to the person or if the person is gay too. In most gay dating apps we already have to fill up our roles since it's convenient that way . Back when I was non weeb I didn't know what an uke or seme is & i was asked the question but the girl politely explained the concept to me & introduced me to ...... reply
First of all you’re assuming their sexuality, then you’re shoving a sexual position and probably making them HELLA uncomfortable. I do sometimes try to guess people hobbies, habits, or traits even when I don’t know them, but that’s from me wanting to be a therapist place not me being a fucking fetishizer. It’s like how since I’m Asian e...... 1 reply
FUCKING YES. It’s really fucking bad. Gay people are human beings. That’s dehumanizing. Real people are semes or ukes. Gay people aren’t yaoi characters. reply
I think it's bad because it's used to describe fictional characters in Yaoi. And yaoi convey a lot of stereotypes. Gay people irl don't wanna be associated with something that reductive. Like you reduce them to their position in bed in their relationship and that's kinda offensive. reply
I know you said you don't do that shit, but if, as an mlm person, you hypothetically called me either of those or even just asked me if I was top/bottom irl I would be more than happy to beat the living shit out of you until you were within an inch of your life, and even that would not come close to being cathartic enough for me to not still be abs...... 1 reply
Idk, man. But for me and my boyfriend it's an awkward question because people tend to think that uke=the girl and seme=the boy in the relationship. Like, stop imposing your heteroshit on us homos, dude. reply
