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falling in love?
so, i'm a 22-year-old guy living in seoul (moved there from busan). i've never fallen in love - i make it a rule never to sleep with the same person more than once (i'm more of the one-night-stand type), and i'm pretty content that way. relationships are too messy, and i have no interest in them. however, there's something that's been irritating me lately. i slept with this guy recently, and actually started talking to him (over katalk) (we'd also go out for drinks). i didn't have a relationship in mind - we just talked about shit like our latest "conquests" (or so we called them - as a joke, of course). i later learned that he had a girlfriend (dude, why are you even sleeping with other people when you have a girlfriend?), and that he was "just experimenting" with guys. why did that make me feel slightly disappointed? i'm not sure what i was expecting from a kinda-friendship (that had once been only a one-night-stand), and i'm seriously pissed off at myself for having these weird thoughts. i'd vowed never to fall in love, and i was sure i had pretty decent control over my emotions - what the fuck are these thoughts? he's even got a girlfriend (straight guy, probably, who had one too many drinks and decided to do it with a guy). but, get this - the other day, the asshole started rambling about having feelings for me and shit (after he had just a few drinks), and tried to kiss me. my brain was so fucked up at the moment that i just paid the bill and left without saying anything (a dick move, but i was also pretty drunk, so it's not as if i was thinking straight). i'm pretty sure he doesn't even remember what happened yesterday, as he's been messaging me as per fucking usual, as if nothing happened. the fact that i'm having these feelings pisses me off, and the fact that they're for a dickhead who's screwing around behind his girlfriend's back makes me even more irritated. so - advice?? i don't even fucking know.
In my opinion... MOVE ON. It's not worth it. I've been there, thinking that because it was ME it would be different. That we would start something good because even though we are in our early 20s we were done playing but I guess that was just me.
It's seriously not worth it. I'm no one to tell you what to do or think but there is someone out the...... 1 reply
This may not be what you want to hear, but this guy sounds like a fucking sleazeball who's gonna use you and then break your heart just like he's doing to this girlfriend of his. You shouldn't give up on love, but you should definitely give up on this cheating scumbag. Run fast and run far. 1 reply
I disagree with the four other answers. So what if he's in a relationship? If you have feelings for him, tell him! Tell him you want him to break up with his girlfriend and to be with you. Don't just move on without saying anything. You'll regret it. reply
Oh man I'm sorry you went through that :^( like man screw this dude. Honestly, move on from him, or at least you should distance yourself from him. Try talking to him less because it's better if he isn't in your life as much. Like idk I already don't trust this dude since he practically cheated on his girlfriend to "experiment" like come on man. An...... 2 reply
I think that even though you were trying to avoid it because you weren't interested, you are still subconsciously looking for a relationship. I don't think that this guy is one that you should try something with, but maybe find someone to go outside of your comfort zone with. Who knows, maybe something will work out. Keep an open mind and stay true...... reply
Distance yourself from him. You shouldn't involve yourself with someone like him. If you really did had those feelings, it was a great start of you leaving him without saying anything and you must not dwell upon thought about him any longer. Maybe your just infatuated. Or maybe you really fell for him. Either way, you must move on. reply
Hmm...he's mighty cavalier about this for some guy just looking to "experiment". In my experience dealing with/knowing/hearing about similar guys in similar situations, he's got some hangups about his sexuality that he hasn't dealt with. Calling it "experimenting" is an easy way to downplay the fact that he likes bussy and doesn't know how to deal ...... reply
Lol he probably just pretend that he didn’t remember cuz it was embarrassing to be rejected by you.
To be honest, I’m quite opposite of your personality I fall in Love a lot and I don’t know if you will listen to my advice but..
1.Rules are meant to be broken
2.But! Not with a guy like him. You should just tell him off like “Bro you have a ...... reply
Love is pretty complicated; it bites you right at the ass when you've least expect it, that's just how it goes.
As for this guy... I don't think it's love, per say, but rather, you could have an infatuation for this person -- you're simply interested, there's no helping it and there's nothing wrong with it, either. Just by the fact that you've be...... reply
