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Stereotypes
So a month ago friend A was roasting me and he joked about how I dressed “like a straight girl” and for some reason that really bothered me. I know he wasn’t trying to make me feel bad but something about that made feel weird. So I was ranting to friend B about it and she said “I feel like you dress more like a white girl if anything” so I asked her if that was a bad thing and she said “I’m not saying it’s a bad thing I’m just saying that you do”. And I just- what? What is that supposed to mean? I’m not trying to say it’s bad to be straight or that it’s bad to be white but how am I supposed to take that? The whole thing made me feel really bad about myself so I decided to buy some clothes that seemed more “gay” which mainly consisted of flannel shirts and jeans. I got a compliment from friend A saying that I didn’t dress like a straight girl anymore and I was expecting to feel bit better about the whole situation but I honestly didn’t. It just made me feel worse about myself. Plus I may dress like “a bi girl” now but does that mean I look more like “a white girl” and if I choose to dress more like “a black girl” will I stop looking like “a bi girl”. Is there an in between? What if I don’t like how the clothes in the in between look? Now I’m really insecure about how I’m dressing. Idk dude. Any advice on what to do?
dress what you wanna dress
don't let people change you
and don't try to be perfect for others
no one will care or remember the past you dressing up like so try focusing on something else (if they care then they the type of ppl thinking it's a personality trait and insecure of their selves) reply
Looks like you're pretty concerned about this so I'm just gonna answer as specific as I can.
You're suffering from peer pressure and social tags.
Funny how when I was in high school, dressing 'like a lesbian' was considered an insult and how nowadays 'dressing like a straight girl' is the issue.
This has been around ever since society was creat...... 1 reply
Some people in the replies really thinks they're perfect and roasting OP for no reason instead of educating her about stereotyping and things like that.
But to answer your question, i think you shouldn't listen to your friends. Wear what you want, and don't be uncomfortable in those clothes because of these weird comments from your friends. If you ...... reply
Wait wait wait... so you got insecure that you were dressing strereotypically white and straight, so you bought... Flannel and jeans..?
That's still stereotypically straight depending on where you live, and if you weren't dressing stereotypically white before you definitely are now. But now you're also purposefully trying to dress stereotypically...... 2 reply
As if clothing and styles are inherently attached to race and sexuality lmao.
There is no such thing as dressing “like a straight girl” or dressing “like white girl”
A flannel and jeans is the most basic fit. If you were trying to “dress gay” or stereotypically gay, mission failed, almost everyone owns jeans at least one flannel. reply
I know it's not easy for everyone but honestly think about this. What do you wanna wear? I'm straight and I dress however I want. I get comments saying that I look boyish most of the time and that I should dress more "formal" but at the end of the day, I just wear clothes that feel comfortable. Don't focus on stereotypes. Instead, focus on what you...... 2 reply
First of all wear what you want and if you're straight why would you want to dress gay? Or whats wrong with dressing straight its honestly an insult because you took it as one he told you it wasn't a bad thing also, It seemed like you had no problems with how you were dressing before that friend said something so maybe drop the friend if what he sa...... 1 reply
Just saying, “dressing strait” isn’t a thing. You could dress basic, fem, masculine, whatever style is out there but that literally has nothing to do with sexuality. Or race for that matter. Those are both just stupid/ ignorant comments ur overthinking.
I can’t say I don’t understand, someone told me the music I listened to was really �...... reply
