Never tell a person who is having a panic attack to "Calm down". Just please don't. We know that we need to calm down. Talk about something random, or show us pictures or ask us to breathe with you. That is what helps. Telling someone to calm down might come across as offensive. Not everyone will think that but there is enough people that do, so just don't. Ok?
well he also was patting his back and holding his hand which is what shina focused on which helped him calm down
Yeah, he did, which I commend him for, but I just wanted to point out that part.
nod i understand it well if someone just tells me to calm down and does nothing else it makes the anxiety worse for sure. as someone who also suffers from this also it is best to be comforting and there are many ways to do that.
Agreed (▰˘◡˘▰)
I will say that while for the most part you are right we have to remember that everyones panic attacks are different. My 8 yearold has to be reminded to calm down and to breath when he has one or he will spiral. Its also all in the way someone tells you to calm down. If its in a caring way with a soft gental voice then it can help but if its in a verbal eye roll type of voice then that can cause a person to expolde in rage.
Very true, that's a good point! Thanks for sharing your experience.
While I'm learning from your comment, I also have to point out one thing. I don't think many people actually mean it when they say "Calm down" to a person who is having a panic attack. It most likely a reflex. Many of us don't really encounter this situation daily, and we sometimes need training to say, react to certain things. If I accidentally come across a someone like the uke before this comment, all I know would be try to sooth them and probably say "Calm down", because that's all I know .
I thought as much, I just wanted to share awareness of how that comment may come across. Thanks for sharing! (▰˘◡˘▰)
I think it has a different connotation in the orginal japanese probably? I dont know but it might have been a factor. having to hear "calm down" while being stressed would make me more frustrated but if you think about it, it depends on the tone and context, it could imply something like "breathe". sorry im not good with words but what im trying to say is there's probably a japanese equivalent to a more "calming" phrase to "calm down" but it's hard to find an equivalent in English for the phrase/word used.
for this, I'd appreciate it if someone can actually tell the exact phrase used
also thank you! appreciate this information. again it really is frustrating to have someone tell you to calm down when you obviously just can't make it go away ╥﹏╥ it's also somehow like people telling you to not get mad making you angrier
As much as I hate it, I hope the MC is injured because then there is a small chance she might escape death.... ironically. It might be on of those, he is accident prone, but since the MC jumps in-between they both life. You know like, her death is set in stone that the "story" won't kill her off until certain things happen. Like that horror movie final destination
Do you have a right to question him about his relationship when you left him? He left him high and dry simply because he wanted to.
Though I feel like a part of the chapter is missing. They went from a surprise kiss to being chill and drinking. That's like going from 100 to 0. But I'm glad they are talking things out. Masato is actually doing research and trying to see if it could work since he values the relationship. Which I have to give kudos for being open and taking his friend's feelings seriously. Also with not wanting to trample Atsushi's emotions and again, talking it through...even in a drunken stupor.. Communication is key!! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Nothing is missing lol. I felt the same way, I was like "wait" so I double checked and it wasn't missing any panels.
That was so cute!!! I hope there is at least 5 chapters of this family fluff!!
I get the comments of all she cares about is the tea because she does. Of course she's going to keep bringing it up when she's stressed, she thinks about tea. When her husband has a boner, she's still going to be thinking about tea. And yes it sounds extensive, but if there is something you are passionate about it's easy to talk someone's ear off about it. Especially if you couldn't share this knowledge before now, you are going to be talking about it ever chance you get. And now she has a captive audience.
IKR?? I'm actually way more invested in her tea business then the romance. Everytime there's some romantic drama I think of it as a minor distraction from the main plot: her tea business. She's a business woman through and through, what a role model!
Exactly! I came for the tea and stayed for the tea! I also love how she has a healthy romance with her husband, but I don't want that to be what this story's only about.
Glad I'm not alone in this!
Same! Everyone's entitled to their own opinion, but I felt a bit disheartened seeing all the recent comments bashing Chloe's business/tea obsession.
I won't be surprised if the Baron helped with the rebellion so he could have the empress consort or set it up so that his brother is more successful, either way, would not be surprised.