just take your time, explore and experiment. sexuality is a spectrum, there's no need to force yourself into a specific box or label. of course, self identity issues are a thing and you may want to find a label or group you identify with, all i can recommend you do is experiment and explore yourself and your sexuality until you find what you like b......
For BL.. This pairing right here is the example of side couple that is really good!! Even better than the main... He Xian x Mo Guan Shan from 19 days This couple is on par with the main couple. They even got a sequel of their own which speaks volume of the pairing. Hirano x Kagiura from Hirano to Kagiura ... and lastly... this my personal favor......
What anime are you guys looking forward to this year?