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What a complicated storyline. I love how you get to be in every character’s shoes so you can empathize with each of them. Haero’s personality is one with low self-esteem and self-punishment through his past trauma, which in turn evolves into a fear of commitment out of a sense of hurting someone else. Don’s evolution over the years as well is so dynamic. Once a star athlete with a bubbly personality, he has his own demons when it comes to being an emotional crutch for someone who only used him as an escape from her other abusive relationships. Let me tell you, that shit scars you. Always being the one feeling insecure, and then having those insecurities met when someone you love leaves you each time, it’s no wonder he built up a barrier that left him feeling angry against Haero and the world. And then there’s Nami, a huge ally in an otherwise homophobic society who was there for Don during the hardest time of his life. She accepted her place as comforter, but you can’t blame someone who’s in proximity to someone they’re attracted to to get their hopes up for that one day where the other person reciprocates their feelings. That is a hard, hard path to take. And the worst part is, all these people with their insecurities could have felt better with one thing and one thing alone: open and honest communication. And that, even in the real world, is damn hard. I empathize with all the characters here, the title of the story is very apt: everyone is broken. And healing takes digging through the dirt and grime. Goddamn.

Just wanted to put my own experience/opinion out there to give some insight into this relationship dynamic.

I grew up in a pretty abusive household. My father doesn’t work while my mother does. He is an insanely jealous and insecure person who emotionally abuses my mother if he sees her anywhere near his brothers or other men. He has also strangled her and physically assaulted her. Not only that, but both my sister and I found him flirting and playing with housekeepers younger than us. Regardless of all this, my mother chooses to stay with this man out of “love”.

The reason I bring up this story is because I’ve come to realize that this world has very different dynamics and relationships. While it’s easy for bystanders to say what the right thing is, unless we ourselves have been through such situations, we will never be able to understand the mentality of staying in such abusive relationships or easily forgiving the people in it. It seems far-fetched for a lot of readers, but personally I find this to be very real and believable. And while I may not condone it being shown as a fluff piece, and I feel that the characters do require counseling and therapy, I don’t believe people who say they’d leave such a relationship easily because I’ve come to realize that love is weird, twisted and different for everyone. My advice to readers would definitely be to always stay mentally and physically healthy. If your partner is abusive, seek help for yourselves, or for your sake and especially for any children you have in the relationship, separate.

Honestly, we’re 89 chapters in, and I have to say there has been absolute zero growth with Merry. I understand he grew up sheltered, but I feel like he represents a typical shoujo girl who on most occasions people wouldn’t like, but because of his appeal his characterization is overlooked. I’ve been waiting for him to have some growth, anything at all. But he’s only babied further by Sooho, and inevitably Merry just keeps on coming off as a pretty stand-off housewife. I mean I can’t realisitcally give a 20-year-old a pass for this long. All he does is cry or be cute. I obviously don’t expect him to take on Sooho’s burdens or anything like that, he doesn’t have a concept of the urban or business lifestyle clearly. But I do ask for maturity when it comes to making decisions or taking care of yourself. At least stop looking so confused or babyish. You were raised in a normal society, not like Tarzan in some jungle by Spears While the loving relationship is definitely heart warming, the characters on their own have not really progressed as much in my opinion. There’s just been angst and nothing else. Really hoping something changes at this point. Honestly not trying to hate on it, the series definitely has promise as a drama series. But so far the plot hasn’t really given much, and Merry just comes off as my least favorite character for now (don’t hate him just stating an opinion).

Unpopular opinion but I actually love Noah and Nayeon. While I think Dohye and Noah were great too, I can’t help but enjoy the fact that Noah loves Nayeon deeply in the present timeline, and she does as well. Their definitions of relationships and love are both skewed, but they both still genuinely crave each other. With regards to Dohye and Noah, their relationship is far from perfect as well. Between Doyhe masturbating on Noah when they first meet (sexual harassment), to him not okay with role reversal and also having poor communication skills or being too forceful with his sexual demands (showing your penis as a “guy” thing when it clearly isn’t since you’re into this person), I think everyone in this storyline is flawed. So long as two consenting adults enjoy each other and love each other, I’ll root for them regardless. I root for Dohye x Noah then, and I root for Noah x Nayeon now.

This was BDSM done right. It wasn’t just pandering sexual fantasy. It was a powerful, consensual, loving relationship. Ilya respected and loved Misha and was the one person he was willing to give his pain, his money, his everything to. While Misha loved this man for giving him the love he so needed. The saddest thing now is that Ilya won't be a part of his new life, a painful reality they both knew, and chose to share together with every scar Ilya left on Misha. I may not understand BDSM myself, but I respect it and the author for portraying it so well. Beautiful art and story-writing.

Ladies, enjoy! #53 (づ￣ ³￣)づ https://imgur.com/gallery/JSwUT