stop reading 'yaoi' then, like spend less time with it, its not easy but you HAVE to. you're getting deathly bored and can't seem to read another genre except BL? yeah that's a problem, your dopamine receptors are fried. Though, I'm not proposing that you should entirely stop reading it. Some are great but it's things like this (your situation) is......
I'm a straight woman and I also asked myself almost all the same questions while reading comments on sites like this, specially the one where women desire to be gay man, like?? if thats not a fetishization I dont know what it is, it's honestly gross and weird, I think reading too much Yaoi content has rotted their brain. A lot of women would like ......
are you getting bored?