THE NEIGHBOURHOOD's Topics (29)

Hohohooh wait for the plot twist, might be the author is just messing with us and feeding us that his the bottom but will definetly Top later on (●'◡'●)ﾉ

Nkot dating, doing interestkng things *-*

He was resisting? Really? Then why he couldnt stop him when he was doing this and that. He could've... Eventually
. He slapped him before. He could simply push him away but he didnt.

This is gonna sound so victim blamey and I expect those comments will show up soon enough chastising us all..but it looked like he enjoyed it and the kiss. I think he is tired of his boyfriend and is getting a thrill out of this situation. It feels like those hentai ntr where the girl is all "iyaaa noo~ but kimochii ur so much bigger than my husband lmao ;) but nooo~" Like not a sincere no. I'm sorry that sounds so distasteful. I admit it.

If we're talking about resisting, he did resist. He slapped him -twice- and he kept saying no *it's not like we can talk about rape rules in a yaoi manga* but still. I feel like my mind keeps making excuses so it wouldn't end up being Tom's fault.

It does sound like blaming the victim but I know exactly what you mean. For the hand job I'm not sure if he actually enjoyed it or he came because that's just how the human body works?? but I was pretty pissed when he slipped in his tongue for the kiss.I keep blaming the neighbor for being a thoughtless asshole. I can't stand cheating so at this point I think I'm just adding stuff in so the relationship wouldn't seem toxic because I was enjoying this manga so far. Thank you for explaining tho, both of you :)

Lmao.

I know ppl are mad and shit and I saw they could be victim blaming and saying he didn’t resist and he felt good but sometimes you can’t control your body if it feels pleasure and maybe he didn’t resist bc he could’ve been scared!!(this is what I was thinking tho I need to understand what they’re saying to get a better understanding of his decisions and what was going through his mind) but I also was thinking what if he wanted a thrill of doing something too but I really don’t wanna jump to conclusions until the series finishes in English which is why I don’t wanna be mad af at him tho I think it was wrong of him to cheat bc of what happened with the handjob I still feel bad for him bc he did try and resist and resist in the upcoming stuff that will happen..

Like i said he didnt realtly resist. Of course i am not blaming only Tom. Tbh I hate Haejoon(?) so freaking much, but i was seriously pissed off when Tom also slipped his tongue. Like wtf duded? Is it resisting. After that he hit him bıt whats the point of resisting if you agree it in the first place, and after that he thought about it many times, and more importantly he got hard after the kiss.. Well you will say he cant control it is nature of human. Yes maybe you cant control what you think but you can control what you do. I am really pissed.

Uhm first of all hes threatened and did say no.
This is not consensual, wether he felt smt or not.

First i dont particularly hate Tom but i seriously hate that GoHaejoom. About that let me tell you somth. I know its a fiction or smth but what was he threating him for in the first place? Because he kissed him. (I wont even talk about how Tom let him in and also said it felt good and got hard) And then Haejoon telling him to make love with him or else he will say to Jaemin they kissed. Come on. Because of a kiss threat he will do more unforgivable things with him and then he will be more guilty than before and there will be more things for that guy to threat Tom for. And unending circle. Do you think it make sense? Tom could be more honest and basically reject him. He could, totally. Okay i hate when Jaemin does what he wants with Tom as well. But he doesnt cheat and lie to him at least. Tom is in wrong here as well as GoHaejoon. I read all the chapters tbh. I understand that people want to feel assured about Tom's feelings and want him to be only victim here because i also would like him to resist with all he has. I hate cheating. But just because of that we cant say Tom didnt do anything wrong. He was wrong in this chapters. (spoilers) Gohaejoon is a piece of shit and after that chapters i cant say Tım was still doing smth wrong. He really is victim after this chapters. Sı the only one who is shittiest from the beginning to the almost end is GoHaejoon.

And it wasnt consensual at first yes but it was consensual because Tom let him do what he want. Saying NO doesnt count as resisting if you are able to resist more. If he slapped and hit him before, he would totally do it again. You willl see what is really NOT consensual after a few chapters.

Oh Lord... saying no should be enough to stop any decent person. Not to mention getting slapped. You clearly have no idea how the body reacts when someone touches you against your will. Often times ppl just freeze.
I guess Tom will blame himself but Haejin is already a rapist. This is not what consent looks like.

I'm not sure about your definition of resistance, but saying NO is 100% not consensual. staying silent also means not giving consent. I was not sure how I felt about your opinion but I definitely disagree with you now. Tom is obviously weak so saying he should've done more than slapping him is unreasonable. Not to mention he is sensitive *as the neighbor said* so touching him will obviously cause reactions.

I am so glad that I made a discussion about this. but as this thread goes on more people come in to blame the victim for doing something he definitely did not choose to do. Saying he liked it is the same as saying he didn't. WE DON'T KNOW. except for the things that he does subconsciously we know nothing about his actual feelings. I came in asking one question and went out with like 100. mostly just "why are people like this". I haven't read the raws so I think I'm gonna wait to see what happens in the next chapters before jumping into conclusions.

Saying just a no is a resistance alone? Yes if there is a decent person in front of you it is. But if its not a decent person you will just say no and do nothing because 'oh i already told him no and resisted, i dont have to do anything from now on, its all their fault, lets just feel the moment.' Are you even serious? Just like you said, he slapped him, he even hit him. That means he is not that weak, he can do more than saying just no and feeling it. I am telling you again. Tom did something wrong okay, he gave Haejoon that room himself. Like Haejoon even could say he will continue and Tom didnt even say anything. Yes.. After that he will seriously resist and then i also think he is really victim there, in next chapters. I really was sorry for him. But not for these chapters. And sorry but saying this touchig feeling wasnt Tom's fault is bullshit. I am not talking about 'when he already doing it' i am talking about before he start doing it. Yes after he already statted touching you say he couldnt do anything but feel it but hey what about not letting him touch you in the first place????

He was a wonderful person. It's like every time I see his name I cry.
*sigh* It still hurts...

"we don't think we are. good bye." ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ

yes the annoying female characters is what mainly made me the Fujoshi i am today (●'◡'●)ﾉ