Sorry , I clicked the dislike button wrong , I agree with you , I wanted to try bdsm as a sub but now I'm having doubts , I'm scared to get a dom like that , it's scary to think that it went straight to hard core on the first try
If my first would be like that , I think I'll have more doubts and will have a hard time wanting to do it again
Well, bdsm has a tendency to be misrepresented in fiction.
Most of us do it with a romantic partner, whom we love and trust, not a total stranger.
There are people who meet via bdsm forums, sex clubs etc, but that's the minority and more hardcore players.
Diving into bdsm can be nerve-wracking, but a lot of fun. You just need to have a partner you trust and a TON of communication.
Always talk it through before you begin, to figure out each others tastes, limits, and expectations.
You can also experiment with a few things outside the bedroom to get more comfortable.
Like spanking, to gauge your pain-threshold; Bondage to learn the technique and what feels right or too tight; trying out toys, blindfolds etc just to get familiar with them.
BDSM is all about safety, exactly for the reasons you mentioned.
Remember: if one party is not enjoying a sexual experience and/or can't stop the experience, then it's not it's not BDSM, it's just rape.
If you have a partner and want to try delving into the world of BDSM, there are a ton of articles on the Internet describing safe practice, recommendations for beginners, and lists/questionnaires you can fill out together.
Even if your fantasies might be hardcore, reality can be quite different, so there is no harm done in starting out light.
It's easier to amp up the intensity if the play is too soft, than it is to reign it back in when you've gone too far.
Hope my answer is of use to you.
Thank you , it's very informative. I'll reflect on that
Man, I wanted to like this story but... I just really couldn't.
If it had started at the part where the seme explained about the playroom and how they were going to play, it would've been a really cool story, but alas that was not how it went.
There were too many things in this story that made me really uncomfortable. Not the SM play (it wasn't 100% to my taste, but not bad) but everything around it.
1. Consent under the influence is not consent. You should NEVER do BDSM while under the influence. It's simply not safe.
2. If you haven't established a safeword, any variation of "no" or "stop" should be heeded.
Otherwise it's just rape, or could quickly turn into it.
That these two never seemed to establish a safe word, and the seme didn't stop when the uke said no, made me SO uncomfortable.
3. They didn't talk about safety and limits before they began playing, so imo their first play was waaaaay too hardcore for a sub that had never tried BDSM before.
Big yikes.
BDSM is fun but don't do it like they did. Play safe, kids.