This.
Wow, these are impressive points indeed. I do think it does capture what might be going on in Yahwi's mind and his potential attitude.
The line between a terrible communicator and a terrible lover? I think there is no line as both should come together, hand in hand. In order to be a good lover, one has to properly communicate. I think there are different ways to express your emotions like talking or physical (kissing and the likes) but overall, one has to communicate (mostly through words) to reach the other party, what their expectations are, things they are comfortable and not. It does not mean you have to express almost all your emotions its just that for the foundation of your relationship, in order to jump start something, both parties must communicate and talk it out.
Unless we can read minds, its better to say it in one form or another. I don't really know if I make sense but yeah -- sometimes, what makes you a bad lover is bec you are a bad communicator.
(〜￣△￣)〜 I have a fetish over men who don't give a fuck
So imma team yahwi, but im goin to fangurl over cain too
Yeah, I just got triggered because a family member has what people would perceive as a "cold personality". She's one of the warmest people if you are in her circle and know how to interpret her affection. She shows her love versus telling it and I know that she loves me because of said special treatment. But we often butt heads because I (used) to never tell her what troubles me or things about her behavior that hurt me. Which if I did she would try not to do. It seems like people were praising a personality type over the other without putting in to account Jooin is being very insecure.
And thank you for answering my question, lol
I do understand. People get misunderstood bec it seems like the extroverted personality and emotions are deemed to be "what should be". Society is inclined to reward strong extroverted personalities while shutting off introverted ones. Its a collective attitude. Hopefully it does change and allows introverted or even the cold types feel less "out of place" and is understood.
Having a cold personality is completely normal but I guess communication should still be part of it even though the way you or the family member expresses themselves may be different. Talking is a way to communicate but it's not the only way although it is kind of the first and easier way to do it?
I don't really know if I did answer it, but thank you as well!
I've been wondering, when does it separate from being a terrible communication to being just a terrible lover. Because Yahwi does make time for Jooin. He only gives money because of the cab fare, it just gets translated to money for sex since he always leaves Jooin alone right after. Jooin isn't talking about his feelings but expects Yahwi to know them??? Yahwi might be thinking that Jooin only likes he for his looks and maybe money because Jooin isn't saying anything!!
He might be thinking that those are the only things that are keeping Jooin by his side.
The girl that Jooin asked about could have attached herself to Yahwi. In Yahwi's mind, that type of person isn't important so why would he tell Jooin? Yahwi cares for Jooin in his own way, he just happens to have a lot of money so he doesn't mind using it. Anytime Jooin texts him he replies, within the acceptable timeframe.
I just feel like the non expressive people get a bad rapport as being heartless which is not the case. They either don't know that their love is not getting through to their lover because said party doesn't say anything. Or they think I'm meeting the check marks for what is needed, what more is there? So please tell me where the divide is?
Sidenote: Cain literally knows nothing about Jooin but feels committed because of a past encounter. He is forcing Jooin in a role that isn't taking into account who Jooin is as a person. Not the better option just the more comfortable one because Cain is more expressive with his emotions.