there is a difference between being "in love" and love the other person. being in love is a strong like, and refers mostly to the physical attraction and some parts of the character(in a relationship that is basically the first 6 months when u get to know the person). on the other hand, loving the other person refers to a deep connection which occurs when you know the other person and accept all his/her flaws. when we are talking about "love" we dont talk about appereance at all. being "in love" and love coexist for a period but most of the times at some point being in love stops and only love stays...
as for "like" and "being in love", well at first you like the other person then u start being in love with him/her. how easily u fall in love doesnt depend on ur standards, but on ur character. if u are the kind who falls in love easily then probably u are a hopeless romantic and you are thinking about building a family (not always). on the other hand, when u dont fall in love so easily means that u've think about it in more than one aspect. this is not necessarily good or bad. there are 4 things that we look for: 1) attraction 2)character 3)values 4) family role. when u are in ur teenage years u mostly search for 1 and 2 (and 3 a little) but as u grow up u start to think about all 4... the thing here is: we get confused because at first 1,2 play a really important role and thats why we cant think clearly.
i believe that when you like someone u would also consider other options if they occur. if u are "in love" then its like u are on drugs so u cant think clearly and want the other person exclusively. when u love someone u are on ur right mind and u are able to think what is wrong and right, and want the best for the other person. u consider his/her side and u dont act selfishly.
when you like someone u want to be close to them no matter what and you are attracted to them. u would consider kissing them, hugging them, looking at them etc. when u are "in love" (as i said, a strong like) then the only difference is that u cant stop thinking about them. when u love someone, well YOU KNOW. love doesnt suddenly appear, u work for it and so is the other person.
Most of the people I met will always feel "love at first sight" when the other party is attractive.
Others might pretend or deny that "its not always like that" but when the attractive party shows motive you will also bite at it.
o.o wow that's so interesting, thank u for sharing ur perspective in this! I didn't know that there was another stage between like and love before; I thought it was just a blurry border all these time, why didn't I realize this sooner?! Now it makes sense why I always confuse these two way too much. You explained everything so briefly and clearly that I'm speechless! Thank u very much!!
haha yea, it most likely ends that way eh xD I guess they just can't help it?
I think there are different forms of love. I think the english language does a poor job explaining the difference between them because we don’t have words to describe them.
I think “Falling in love at first sight” is more attraction, which is more of a child love than something deep.
Being “in love” is when you are so happy with your partner that you get a good feeling in your heart
“Love” is more of an outlook. Like I love them because...
And “lust” is when you are sexually attracted to somebody but don’t really think or want a future with them.
In the end a realtionship is give and take. They are a person you want to spend time with and also satisfy needs you don’t want to do with people on just a friendship level. How you love somebody doesn’t really matter as long as everybody is happy where they are at. And if something is wrong then talk about it.
haha no problem, that is my point of view^^ when u start a relationship u will also see the differences...the way we experience love difers from person to person but there is always some common ground (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Y'know, I started reading romance stories and listened to other people's love lives irl because I wanted to know how it works.
After all these years I somehow understood a bit more about how people fall in love. Like how they initially find a certain trait/quality attractive and they become attached to that person as a result; then that leads to love?
Some would take their time to get to know the person and slowly develop that love overtime, but others immediately *snap* falls in love as quick as a few days or a few minutes of encounter. This is common in mangas, but it also happens irl(?) (according to the people I have spoken with; both online and irl).
How does that work??? I still have no clue. Does it depend on a person's standards? So does this mean that the people who falls in love easily have low standards? Wait- that doesn't make sense; that even sounds a bit insulting to a degree. Please explain the emotional aspect of it. I know that it is quick to gain interest in someone, or even liking them to some degree, but love? That's kind of stretching it a bit.
From my understanding, 'Like' is when you are attracted to someone where you feel shy/nervous; or there are cases where you would have a 'cuddly' or 'relaxing' feeling by being around them. 'Love' on another hand happens when you have come to know them a bit more; where you have grown to accept their imperfections and still care for them. Are these 'definitions' correct? If they are flawed, then please explain.
If my definitions are somewhat correct, then how is it possible to 'love' so quick?? Are they simply mistaking 'love' with 'like'? I heard that that's a pretty common misconception. But then again, there are those that honestly claimed that they are 'in-love' with 'that certain someone', so I honestly don't know what to believe.
I gotta be honest, I haven't fallen in love or even liked anyone romantically, so I honestly have no idea about the emotional aspect of it. I may have 'liked' some people, but I believe that's just myself tricking my brain to think like that because that 'like' didn't feel like anything; I didn't feel any nervousness or 'heart-pounding' moments, just mere curiosity but... I get curious of people all the time, so I don't think these are the feelings of a romantic 'like'. How do you know the difference?
TLDR:
- How is it possible for someone to fall in love so quickly? Please explain the logical and emotional aspect of it.
- Like and Love; what are your personal definitions of them?
- How do you know you like/love someone if you have never felt it before?
I'm sorry for the long post.