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I've had something similar to this happen to me, and I think the best thing is to not force it. You can still contact her and talk, but do it when you feel like it.

Forcing yourself to maintain the relationship will only cause strain and make it awkward. Anyway, you just shouldn't try to force the relationship.

Hey ive experienced this same thing so I completely understand. The best option is to be open with your friend about it. Confront her and just get a feel for how she views your friendship. She might be feeling the same way.

It's hard but try being open and honest about your feelings. Things become too murky and complicated the longer you wait without taking action. That is what I have learned during my few years of college. Good luck!

Im kinda facing something similiar too

In order for relationships to work (be it romantic or friendship) the people in the relationship have to put in the effort but it seems like both you and her don't want to put in alot of efforts to maintain the relationship then whatever happens, happens. The whole idea of "friends that you make in college are friends you're going to have forever" doesn't apply to everyone. If you guys do grow apart, it's fine, friends come and go all the time.

But even if both of you grew distance, that doesn't mean you guys aren't friends anymore. You can keep it casual and hang out once in a while to catch up on things (thats pretty much me and my friends honestly) Make new friends! Meet new people!

Well let me tell something from a person in the med field...not all but most of us don’t overthink about friends and friendship. In my case I don’t really care about friends but I have to have good relationships with people I’m “stuck” with. I really have no time for the drama of friends I used to have in high school and considering I’m an introvert by nature people exhaust me
To be fair I am just telling u to see it from her point of view...it is hard to take breath in this environment, no joking I do t even hang out with ppl in my own fielbit we see each other frequently.
I’m not sure if she is as busy as I am (because I’m in my fifth year which harder ) but I think it is unintentional and it doesn’t have to be as frequent as before but it could still be there
Like I have friends I meet up once or twice ayear and of course it isn’t the same but we are still friends
She may not mean it and wants to still be ur friend. Distance can make u grow apart but not necessarily not be friends anymore
Hope u can make more friends in ur own field and be happy
Tbh u r so cute for having such concerns about ur friends XXD

You’re right, I should just relax and get rid of all my anxiousness

Thank you for your advice, drifting away from her because of my worries is not the right way to maintain a friendship, I should just be comfortable

Honestly that’s great advice, we aren’t children anymore who are always together like in high school. I can’t always rely on on her being the closest to me, we all have to become independent at some point.

I think that would be kind of hard for me because I was always one to listen to others’ worries but I never wanted to burden my friends with mine. Opening up is uncomfortable for me but maybe that needs to be a step I take in order to change for the better.

I think her personality may be a bit like yours based on your response...she’s in her first year and I know she’ll become even busier. You’re right it doesn’t matter the distance, a friend is still a friend no matter how close

I'm the same. And I'm not just saying that. I dont like letting other people in on what I'm going through because I think someone always has it worse and I shouldnt complain. I know it's hard. But to me, it was more important for my emotional well being if I confronted my friend about it, rather than bottling it up and suffering alone :/ I hope you can come up a solution that works for you.

Do you mind me asking? After you confronted her how did she react? You don’t have to answer, I know everyone reacts in different ways

In my situation, she ended up expressing her own feelings to me and it turned out we were both missing the friendship. Life does get in the way and so does growing up and we both admitted that we had lost pieces of our friendship along the way. However, we vowed we would make it up to each other because neither of us wanted to lose our friendship.

And now we talk often, just about everyday we have some sort of social media interaction. We have been out of high school for 4 years now and have only met up 2 or 3 times in that span of time. But we still make it work. And honestly I believe our friendship is stronger now than it's ever been.

I see...that’s really awesome, thank you for sharing. I feel somewhat more encouraged now

I'm glad I could share my experience with you. Be strong and just do what makes you comfortable. I hope you may come up with the best solution ♡