more like i sure as hell want to be but im too scared and idk where to begin; i secretly wish somebody would just lure me to a dungeon or smth
Why are you scared? If you don't mind me asking.
It's been three years for me, sure there was some up and downs, but it was the best fun that I could never replace.
A bit of gentle femdom, but nothing hardcore. Ropes, pegging, and floggers are fun ;)
Right!!! Femdom is the best.
Hi, I am and well. We don’t typically count consent as consent if the person is inebriated. There is a play involving getting incredibly drunk but consent is established before the first drink. Everything else in this manga is pretty solid and on point.
Yep totally agree with that. And I'm not part of the BDSM community. It's just things I've heard from people who are.
Read joannac's replies from this topic: http://www.mangago.me/home/mangatopic/2547649/
oh u know, just the usual conservative upbringing lmao
sorry didnt realize i was anonymous #－.－)
It's okay lol
But I'm sure you'll do fine once you put your mind to it. <3
An S over here. I was in the community when I was younger (lol). Now I'm about to get marry and still playing only with my fiancé (Maybe I'm here just to brag? haha)
There's a lot of people bashing this manga because "it's not real S&M", "It's abusive" and a lot of things. But that's only because they don't understand that not all couples are the same and likes the same.
This is a little hardcore and that's why not everybody is fine with it, but it's still pretty real and healthy.
don't be scared!
In actuality you can even go to facebook and search for a group with those interest near your location.
People that practice S&M seriously are really respectfull about consent and going slow.
Go meet them, get to know them, make you feel confortable with them and take a step little by little.
You never know, maybe your soulmate is waiting for you in there hahaha
Yey, another insight! They're just insisting on the consent and safe words when it differs from one Dom to another. I don't practice but I learn a lot from you guys. I am actually impressed with how the author went around with those, everything's delivered with delicacy and not straight up BDSM or the usual ones that you'd usually read, esp ever since 50 shades went viral.
I am very happy with this manga.
I know not all BDSM couples use safewords, but I think if you're gonna be doing rape play or any of the really hardcore stuff then you need one. And with gags you gotta be creative, because the sub can't say anything. Like have a bell within reach they can ring or a sign. It's very important that BDSM play is always safe and consensual. How you make that happen differs from couple to couple. In general, and this is my personal opinion, I like having a safeword just in case. Two actually. A "this is too much, but don't stop completely" safeword, and a "this entire scene needs to stop" safeword.
oh man I've searched about finding groups and going to your first munch yada yada but I keep putting it off for whatever reason hahaha
I mean I live with my family and I keep thinking oh how am I gonna hide it from them and like what do I even do just walk up to them and say hey im new and hella into pain??? LMAO
SOMEDAY....
I live with family as well and they know about my kinky lifestyle lmao
I dont think I can ever tell them, were sorta really conservative and traditional
Ohhh I see. Well, you can always message me if you ever want to talk! :3
Nice another one! It really depends, I guess. I think a huge part of it is how much you trust your partner esp the Dom. It's just my observation. Like I've learned, the Dom has the responsibility to read the situation and sense what the Sub is capable of doing or taking. For exclusive couples or partners, depends on how much they trust each other and how well the Dom is, maybe just maybe, they can get away with safe words but for casual partners doing BDSM, I really do think they are a must.
But going back to the story, I think part of what Shizuru was imparting on to Akihisa was that he can be trusted, that if Akihisa submits his whole self to Shizuru, Shizuru will give him the best experience that of course Akihisa can tolerate and find pleasure in.
Yes, more or less that's what you gonna say xD
Also you can say "I'm completely nervous and I don't know how to start. Please guide me" hahaha
I'm really agree with this thing about the difference between a exclusive partner and a one night stand and safe words.
We don't have a safe word because my partner always forgets it (Hahaha!!) And has never tried to use it because he is kind of like the character on this manga: he wants to be seduced, he wants to be corrupted and he wants to know a world that he could never learn being "safe". He also knows that I love him truly and no matter what I say or do in sex he is my most precious person in this world, so he trust me fully. But he really like this submissive part more than pain or bondage.
This can be done with random partners but I don't recommend it. But in this manga I can say it's ok because seme-san (I forgot his names) is really experienced and doesn't treat uke-kun like a no one, instead he is paying him full attention while teaching him and alluring him. That's what both wanted and that's what made them happy. So we are not to judge if it is or not whatever the hell we think
I'm curious, is anyone in the BDSM community? Lmao. I feel like I must know with these comments going out and about.