What is with Korea’s obsession with toxic, violent, and sexually exploitative relationships?! Blondie is presumably the main love interest, but fucking rapes Hoyoung on day 2. At first he asks for permission, then ignores Hoyoung when he says no, to stop, or to slow down. He tells Hoyoung to tell him if it hurts, which he does, only for Blondie to ignore it and continue anyway. I’m sick of stories that mindlessly try to fetishize or dismiss sexual violence. It just means that the author is probably telling on themselves, and was too lazy to write actual characters with personality depth beyond “obsessive guy who does whatever he wants and becomes deaf when someone says no” or “vulnerable guy who is written solely to not make the first guy look like a monster, because any normal person would be traumatized and act like it”. The reason that the bottom character usually ends up being overly physically/emotionally/personally dependent or a doormat isn’t because that just the character. It’s because they are written to accommodate the violent, controlling, and traumatizing behavior and actions of the top so that they won’t be viewed as the outright villain. If the victim of abuse actually shows signs of trauma or acts like a normal person (ex. Trying to avoid, attack, or report the abuser afterwards), it prevents the story from glossing over the cold disparity between what it’s trying to make you think it’s portraying, and what it actually is. It’s no wonder the 4B movement took off like it did if stuff like this is common in media and mentalities
What is with Korea’s obsession with toxic, violent, and sexually exploitative relationships?! Blondie is presumably the main love interest, but fucking rapes Hoyoung on day 2. At first he asks for permission, then ignores Hoyoung when he says no, to stop, or to slow down. He tells Hoyoung to tell him if it hurts, which he does, only for Blondie to ignore it and continue anyway.
I’m sick of stories that mindlessly try to fetishize or dismiss sexual violence. It just means that the author is probably telling on themselves, and was too lazy to write actual characters with personality depth beyond “obsessive guy who does whatever he wants and becomes deaf when someone says no” or “vulnerable guy who is written solely to not make the first guy look like a monster, because any normal person would be traumatized and act like it”.
The reason that the bottom character usually ends up being overly physically/emotionally/personally dependent or a doormat isn’t because that just the character. It’s because they are written to accommodate the violent, controlling, and traumatizing behavior and actions of the top so that they won’t be viewed as the outright villain. If the victim of abuse actually shows signs of trauma or acts like a normal person (ex. Trying to avoid, attack, or report the abuser afterwards), it prevents the story from glossing over the cold disparity between what it’s trying to make you think it’s portraying, and what it actually is.
It’s no wonder the 4B movement took off like it did if stuff like this is common in media and mentalities