The beginning of the relationship confuses me

Ima be honest I’m very close to dropping it but I want to hold on bc of these comments if someone could help me with the beginning of the relationship bc it seemed hella rapey like was the brown hair guy into it? Bc he would say no like a lot and was getting physically sick but at times was like really into it and the black haired dude was like scary I can’t tell if it was mutual and a like stubborn contest or if there’s just straight up abuse happening. Would love some explanations (￣∇￣")