There’s nice and then there’s people pleasing. I think the seme is trying to communicate his frustration with the ukes overly accommodating nature. When someone is nice because they are people pleasing it becomes unhealthy because they’re unable to communicate their boundaries out of fear. The seme is just trying to show the uke that it’s ok to say no. He literally says in one of the chapters that he has to break the ukes habit of not clearly communicating his boundaries and consent. In the context of a sub/dom dynamic in yaoi this relationship is incredibly healthy and the seme is a very responsible and respectful dom.
yeah, further in now and that's clearer lol. I was just really frustrated with the first situation cause why would he NOT pick up some stuff for his friends lmao?? and it's not like they pressured him into paying for them, they all offered to pay first and he turned them down. although I can see how it could get annoying if he's ALWAYS the one sent out to pick shit up. and the thing where one of the guys was like "can you do the interview instead of me?" did bother me a little, I was just consumed by the store thing cause as someone with a big family, that's pretty normal to do for each other lmao and the seme was making such a big deal about that particular task. (and I also wanted to say that I am very into bdsm and understand the necessary boundaries and healthy dynamics needed in a sub/dom relationship! but I thank you for being so polite with your reply even though you were disagreeing with me :) not everyone is so nice)
Oh ok! Honestly when I read the comment I didn’t see that you were only one chapter in, I wouldn’t have disagreed if I did lol. I didn’t feel annoyed at the semes reaction because I feel like it was used to tell us more about the direction of the seme and ukes character growth than about the semes overall personality. I was really fired up about analyzing the characters to predict the plot so I didn’t think about comparing it to reality. Thank you for taking the time to respond! I really enjoyed hearing your perspective :))
and I'm struggling to like the seme why does he not grasp the concept that some people are just nice?? that doesn't make them a pushover lmao. If he's going out to the store, why would the others wait for smth to be ordered and delivered online when uke can just grab it while he's already out?? and I understand the money thing, but some people just genuinely don't like having their family & friends pay them back for small stuff like that. he's just a bit of an asshole who doesn't like ppl lmao and that's making him misconstrue uke's kind nature & closeness with the others as him being a pushover, but he's not that at all lol