So in the end it wasn’t the ML that stepped up for the MC, but the uncle?! Can we just c...

I seriously don't understand the author. Like is this really the ML? It feel like the author is gonna use the fact that he is some sorta pitiful traumatised person who needs a woman to love him and teach him everything so he becomes what only the female lead can see. i hate stories like this. Like why? Is she barbara the builder? Why tf does she need to built a grown ass man into someone functional and bring out his potential for him? Why can a grown ass man not find the motivation in himself to do that for himself? And do that BEFORE he hurts the lead multiple times and makes her run so the loss of her is like some magic switch where he magically learns to suddenly do shit right.... (╬￣皿￣)凸

Barbara the builder

i hate this bullshit about dating potential. it is a very feminine thing. like bro are you a gardener who is cultivating a seed whose potential you can see? no? are you seeing a barren land that you want to buy, because you see great potential to built some amazing building on it and become rich? no! it's a fucking adult man. you are not his mom or dad who is raising a little boy and tries to help him find and express the best version of himself. his parents had his chance and fucked up and he himself seems to not think anything is lacking about himself in the way he is, or he would have ALREADY changed. humans don't change because of someone else. they change for themselves. even if a man changes after meeting a woman, he changes for himself. he does it because he wants her so badly (for himself), so he changes in a way that will allow him to attract her and keep her with him. he doesn't do it for her. but anyway. i hate this shit so bad. at least women are now already aware of this trope that ruined many real women lives because they thought they could pick up some dude and polish him into their custom made prince charming.

oh and if a man changes for a woman, he doesn't;t rub it under her nose, he doesn't show it. he becomes very self conscious about himself if he is a smart man and changes sneakily. initially pretending to be what he knows he needs to be for her to chose him and then slowly he really becomes that (if he is a good man and not some fuck who just wants to fuck her).